Twilight, 50 Shades of Grey, & Magic Mike... Hissing

God brought something to mind today…that is disturbing me. It has left me unnerved and shaken.

Are you aware that for decades there has been a very dirty secret out there that’s mostly “hush-hush” in social circles? The dirty secret is the exploitation of boys.

In many places on the Internet there are cries of horror over the injustices of sexual slavery. There are many ministries sharing the plight of thousands of young girls forced to be sex slaves. There is less mention of boys, but it’s out there.

How did it happen?  How do we live on a planet where sex slavery is a reality?

Supply and demand.

What have we learned from the over sexualization of women? All that frenzy over the female body, led to demand, which increased the need for female sex slaves.

For the depraved mind, all that frenzy over the female body has lead to more filthy brothels filled with misused and abused females.

Where might we be headed today? All this frenzy over the male body…makes me concerned for boys.

As I see grown women clamoring over two teen boys (Twilight) celebrating erotic porn (50 Shades of Grey) and cheering male strippers (Magic Mike) I am somewhat perplexed. In a healthy mind it is seen as harmless fun. But what of the unhealthy minds out there.

Supply and demand will repeat itself.

Do you want your son to be part of that supply?

Someone’s son is going to, right there next to the daughters … trapped beyond the twilight, no shades of grey, no magic…just darkness, pain and brokenness.

So ponder those questions again…How did it happen?  How do we live on a planet where sex slavery is a reality?

It starts innocently enough…I think I hear a snake hissing…and laughing.

What do you think?

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Kathy Drake · July 13, 2012 at 11:00 am

I think your concerns are very valid. I cringe every time I read a facebook post from a woman (sometimes college aged, sometimes young married and sometimes grandmothers!!) who name themselves as Christ -followers but at the very same time wait in line for these books, , plan “night out with the girls” to see these movies, stay up all night reading this stuff……..I’m burdened…..

    Tracey · July 13, 2012 at 7:58 pm

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts Kathy, I know your heart for young women and women – keep pouring into them. Titus 2 women are called to speak up…keep speaking up in love, as you always have!
    Blessings to you!

Holly · July 13, 2012 at 4:08 pm

Agree. I know I’m called to girls in particular, but I always hope and pray for those called to our boys, because the need is just as great there. I see the need. There is a double standard among women too I think. If we could get back to living by the scripture, both sexes could be respected. Living with respect and purity of mind and body….surely we can get there!

    Tracey · July 13, 2012 at 8:01 pm

    Thanks for sharing your heart on this issue Holly! Blessings to you!

DM Kilgore · July 13, 2012 at 5:19 pm

I believe it is the same way that domestic violence, child molestation, and rape focus on the female victim. I had a friend tell me once that she didn’t worry about things like rape and kidnapping when it came to her kids because she only has boys. The numbers are there though, boys are just as susceptible to this type of violence. I’m not sure if society tends to veer away from the subject because they find male-rape to be too taboo to discuss, or if it’s the stereotyping of the “weak” female vs the “strong” male, or if it is something more. I, for one, have seen actors and thought, “Nice work, God.” I’m not beyond saying someone is beautiful- be they male or female, but you bring up good points. When things escalate to this point, you’re right, it is exploitation- and while feminist have for years fought against being exploited, I cannot recall ever hearing a fight against being seen as a sex object. I wrote an essay in regards to this based on the work of Jean Kilbourne. I believe that men feel just as much pressure as women (in our modern society) to be that overly-macho, highly sexual, often angry, and sometimes violent man that is portrayed in advertising.

    DM Kilgore · July 13, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    In a rush- that should say “feminists” and I have never hear a “man” fight against being a sex object. 😉

DM Kilgore · July 13, 2012 at 5:21 pm

*heard* Ugh! I give up. LoL

    Tracey · July 13, 2012 at 8:00 pm

    Hey Donna – thanks so much for stopping buy and sharing your thoughts on exploitation. I hope others consider your concerns. Blessings to you!

Jennifer Dyer · July 15, 2012 at 12:10 am

I so agree with you! How can a book describing a twisted relationship be so successful? A friend commented a mom she knew found the latest twisted book trilogy on her teen’s nightstand. My wise friend told the mom to throw the book in the trash and then discuss it with her daughter. She said, “First, your daughter needs to know you know she is reading the book. Second, you have to discuss it with her to let her know that kind of relationship isn’t normal. Do you want her to think that is what marriage is about?”

The same goes for the latest male-stripper movie. I was stunned when I saw a promo for that movie, especially when I realized one of the stars had been in G.I. Joe. How sad is that: from hero to stripper? Anyway, things are getting so crazy. I wonder what teens think is a normal relationships these days. Maybe Shaunti should research that for us…

    Tracey · July 16, 2012 at 8:39 am

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and giving us more things to “ponder” on this subject matter. Moms, make sure you have a conversation with your teens about what they are reading. Blessings to you Jennifer!

Liliana · July 16, 2012 at 12:00 am

Oh brother! Look, I don’t believe that women are being harmed by this. We all have sexual needs, nothing wrong with a little eye candy. Sure, this kind of stuff could be harmful to some one like a young teenager or something, but I saw Magic Mike, and while it is rather filthy it is also a valid film with decent cinematography. I am non-religious and I wouldn’t like my daughter to be reading Fifty Shades of Grey either, but that book and Magic Mike are not for children or teenage girls. They are for grown women. It is up to parents to make sure that their children are not exposed to this. I understand what you are trying to say about the exploitation of boys, but I really don’t think that Twilight contributes to that. I mean, don’t get me wrong. Twilight was a terrible book with terrible writing and a stupid plot. I am also baffled by the fact that grown women like it so much as well. I think instead of blaming pop culture for the problems that America faces we should all be responsible parents and not expose our children to things we may find morally objectionable. And we should have healthy conversations and rational exchanges with our children. You would amazed by what you can find out about them just by talking to them.

Tracey · July 16, 2012 at 9:01 am

Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment Liliana, as my post indicated the supply and demand issue is what is disturbing to me. The implications of the need to satisfy an ever increasing objectification of other people. I have read all the arguments of whether or not this is “harming” the women doing the viewing and reading…I think the two camps have talked circles around that issue.Though I have my opinions in that area – the concern I felt compelled to share here is simply to consider “supply and demand” especially in those who have depraved minds and prey on girls and boys. It’s disturbing when I consider that history is a good indication of where this could be heading. And yes, parents should discuss entertainment and reading choices with their children/teens. Parents also need to discuss the reality that youth are in danger of being pursued in ways that are harmful. I have found out plenty by discussing the world with my children, their scores of friends who hang out at our home and the students when I substitute teach. I think that’s why this issue is so disturbing to me, I know young people, I see the places adults have taken young people. It brings out the mother bear in me. I am asking other moms to consider there very well may be boys (and girls) coerced, forced or slyly manipulated into filling the supply this demand will create. Doesn’t that make your mother bear come out?

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