Sometimes it sneaks up on me from behind and before you know it, it exposes itself!

For me, it happens like this, “I am sorry I yelled at you, but you did not do as I asked!” left eyebrow in a severe upward slant, lips pursed, hands on hips with just enough of a “neck bob” to indicate my attitude of self righteousness.

If this is an attitude that has not been revealed in your home, welcome to mine – I have exposed my big but more times than I would like to admit.

Heavy sigh.

The need to be “right” I do believe is a generational sin in my life and I am adept at failing to keep it in check – especially at a time when I most need to – during an apology.

My actions are my choice and I cannot blame my inappropriate attitude on someone else. If I am snarky, ugly or down right mean in the “heat” of a battle of words – it is wrong regardless of who got me riled up.

I am supposed to be bigger than that – bigger than a but.

If I feel like I need to apologize, then I need to apologize for my attitude and behavior based only on me and my actions. I do not need to attempt to justify myself with a big “but” – no more big buts! (I do believe we can all agree that we would prefer not to have a big ol but – and that is a word picture that will be hard to forget!)

How about you…do you have a big but?

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Encouraging others for Him. Author/Speaker, Be The Mom & LifeWay's Beautiful Mess Bible Study. Creator of MomLifeToday & MomLifeBootCamp. Devoted wife & fun-loving mom of two, living the simple life on a farm in central Kentucky.

1 Comment

Angela · May 17, 2013 at 11:01 pm

Hi Tracey,
I just wanted to say THANK YOU for your book. I’m a Mom of a 2 month old, a 2 year old and a 4 year old and your book has really spoken to me lately. On my blog, I shared about your book, hoping that it might help other young Moms like myself. Thanks again!

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